How Adults Can Help Pierce County Youth Overcome Trauma

In Pierce County, Washington, where our communities stretch from the vibrant city streets of Tacoma to the serene farmland of rural Graham, young people face challenges that go beyond homework and social media. For many, Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)—like abuse, neglect, or living with a caregiver struggling with mental illness—cast long shadows over their health and future. But here’s the good news: adults in their lives—parents, teachers, neighbors, pastors—can help counter these challenges. 

Research shows that positive relationships with caring adults can reduce the impact of ACEs, fostering resilience and brighter futures. No matter where you live in Pierce County, whether it’s a bustling urban neighborhood or a quiet suburban cul-de-sac, your actions can make a difference. 

What Are ACEs, and Why Do They Matter? 

ACEs are stressful or traumatic events experienced during childhood. These can include: 

• Experiencing abuse or neglect. 

• Witnessing violence or substance abuse in the home. 

• Growing up in poverty or in a family with mental health challenges. 

For example, as reported by the 2021 Healthy Youth Survey:  

• Washington 6th graders reporting no adults to turn to when depressed were nearly three times as likely to report experiencing suicidal ideation (54.7%) as those who reported having adults to turn to (18.5%).
• Washington 6th graders reporting no adults to turn to when depressed were nearly five times as likely to report having attempted suicide (23.3%) as those who reported having adults to turn to (5.1%).
• Washington 8th graders reporting no adults to turn to when depressed were nearly four times as likely to report attempting suicide in the last 12 months (22.8%) as those who reported having adults to turn to (6%).

Studies connect ACEs to serious health problems like heart disease, depression, and substance use later in life. But here’s the empowering part: the presence of at least one supportive adult can significantly buffer the impact of these experiences. 

1. Build Trust Through Consistency

For youth affected by ACEs, stability is key. They may have grown up in unpredictable environments, so showing up consistently can be transformative. Parents, for instance, can make family dinners a priority, offering a space for connection and calm. Teachers can greet students warmly each day and celebrate their small victories, building a classroom culture that feels safe and welcoming. 

Neighbors and caring adults can be a steady presence too. Think about small acts like waving hello regularly, mentoring through local programs, or remembering kids’ names. These actions tell young people: You matter, and I see you. 

2. Listen First, Solve Second

Sometimes, adults want to swoop in with solutions when kids open up. But for youth dealing with trauma or struggling with mental health, what they need most is someone to truly listen. Listening without judgment lets them process their feelings and begin to heal. 

Start with open-ended questions: 

• “How are things going at school?” 

• “What’s been on your mind lately?” 

If they share something heavy, resist the urge to fix it immediately. Instead, acknowledge their feelings: 

• “That sounds really hard. I’m here for you.” 

 This approach not only builds trust but also models healthy communication. 

3. Teach Coping Skills

Kids dealing with trauma often feel overwhelmed and teaching them simple tools to manage stress can be life changing. Deep breathing, journaling, and physical activities like sports or yoga are great options. 

In Pierce County, programs like Tacoma Area Youth for Christ, Boys & Girls Clubs, or YMCA chapters offer safe spaces for youth to learn these skills while building community. Encourage the young people in your life to participate in activities like these. 

4. Connect Youth to Resources

Sometimes the best way to help is by connecting youth with professionals or organizations that specialize in trauma. Pierce County offers a variety of mental health resources tailored to children and teens. For instance: 

• Catholic Community Services: Offers counseling and support services. 

• HopeSparks: Provides trauma-informed therapy for youth and families. 

• Consejo Counseling: Provides trauma-informed therapy for youth and families. 

• Communities In Schools of Tacoma: Works directly in schools to support students facing adversity. 

If you’re unsure where to start, Washington’s 211 helpline can guide you to local resources. 

5. Be a Role Model of Resilience

One of the most powerful ways to counter ACEs is by showing young people what resilience looks like. Talk openly about challenges you’ve faced and how you overcame them. Share healthy ways to deal with stress, whether that’s going for a walk, leaning on friends, or seeking professional support. 

Your example can inspire youth to believe that their future isn’t defined by their past. 

Why It Matters to Pierce County 

In our diverse communities, the impact of ACEs might look different. Urban youth may face gang violence or housing instability, while rural youth might struggle with isolation or lack of access to resources. But no matter the setting, adults play a crucial role in creating a buffer. 

When we, as a community, prioritize supporting youth, we see ripple effects: 

• Fewer dropouts. 

• Healthier families. 

• Stronger neighborhoods. 

It’s not just about helping one child; it’s about building a brighter future for all of Pierce County. 

Take the First Step Today 

Whether you’re a parent in Spanaway, a teacher in Puyallup, a pastor in Lakewood, or a neighbor in Bonney Lake, your role matters. By showing up with empathy, consistency, and care, you can help transform the story for a young person dealing with ACEs. 

Let’s make Pierce County a place where every youth feels seen, supported, and hopeful—because healing begins with us. You can make a direct impact on the life of a young person through Tacoma Area Youth for Christ. Click below to learn more about joining us through prayer, volunteering, or financial support.